Apr
30
Get the Best Photographer for the Job
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Have a special day coming up that you need to find a photographer for? Well you’re in luck. The experience I have gained as a San Diego Photographer will be to your benefit as I share some insights on what you need to do to find the right person for the job. So before you roll the dice with any old photographer in the yellow pages, heed my quick tips and you will be very pleased in what photographer you find for the job.
Many people want to remember special memories with pictures so it is very important that you do research on your photographer, especially if it is a wedding, I know from first hand experience as a San Diego Wedding Photographer. Start with friends and family. See if they have any photographers that they would recommend to you. This way you can start building your list of possible photographers.
After you have accumulated a list of photographers you should visit their websites. Check out events they have shot and determine whether or not that is the type of photography you are looking for. Photographers who have online portfolios will save you a lot of time because then you can prequalify them instead of having to wait til your first meeting to see their portfolio.
Now that you have narrowed your list down to photographers you want to talk with, it is time to do some interviewing. This can be over the phone rather than going in person, so you can save some more time. What you want to accomplish with these phone interviews is to have your specific questions answered. When you do this, you will have a better feel on whether or not this will be the right person for the job. By doing this, you can narrow down your list even further, and now whoever is left over, you can finally meet in person to look over their work and discuss more details even further.
After you have completed the final steps of this process of narrowing down the field. After you have gone through your interview process, it is time to pull the trigger and make a choice. The factors you want to base your decision upon will be, does this person know what you want for that special day? In other words, do they know your vision? Also you want to make sure it is a person you like. Getting along with a photographer for that special day is something not to be taken lightly. You want it someone you match with personality wise, because the last thing you need is to have a stressful day. If they meet your criteria, go ahead and choose one.
Following these simple steps will benefit you in many ways. It will allow you to get to know your photographer. Having a connection is very important. It will also allow you to see if his style is what you are looking for in the types of shots you want. And most of all it will give you piece of mind. Setting up a photo shoot for a special occasion usually means the event is very important. With that in mind, you want that day to be as stress free as possible and following these steps will help accomplish that.
Apr
29
Making Up With A Power Apology
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We never really got any training on how to apologize powerfully. Sure, all of us know how to say I’m sorry. But if you did your ex wrong and now you want them back, you’re going to need to say something much more powerful than I’m sorry.
There is a free course you can download instantly on this at Get Ex Back In Hours.
There are much more impactful ways of apologizing, however. When you’ve been dumped by your ex for wronging them in some way, you will need to use what can be called a Power Apology.
A power apology has as many as 7 or eight steps to it. A power apology is designed to get your ex from anger or hurt to acceptance and forgiveness in just hours or sometimes even minutes. Power apologies should be taught in school, they are so useful in keeping relationships from ending. Here are the steps to a Power Apology:
The first step in a Power Apology is to own up to what you did wrong. Don’t offer a bunch of stories or try to blame your ex “you were cold to me and I was drunk!” Fessing up to what you did wrong is powerful, it lets you mate know that you understand the core problem.
The second step is to mirror their feelings. This is powerful relationship intelligence. How do you mirror their feelings? You say something like I know what I did hurt you, and made you feel betrayed, and sad. You tell your ex how what you did made them feel. Mirroring their emotional state is potent emotional intelligence. Your ex will start to feel really heard.
The third thing is to let them vent and get their hurt feelings off their chest. You listen and let them tell you how they feel about what you did. You just want to make them feel heard and understood, so you listen and don’t defend or try to explain yourself.
To understand more about the power of venting, you can check out the information at a site on Relationship Intelligence.
This is a Power Apology. You have owned up to what you did, mirrored their hurt feelings, and then shut up and listened as they vented and released their negative feelings all over you. If you allow your ex to hear you follow these steps, they will now be much closer to being able to forgive you.
Finally you can now actually say I’m sorry and apologize. Now it will likely get accepted by your ex.
Part 2 of this article discusses the steps to take after you’ve apologized, and it can be seen here at Get Ex Back Part 2.
Apr
28
Counseling Exists For Same Sex Marriages
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There have been approximately 247 licenses for same sex marriages given out in the US. While a gay or lesbian couple could not have been ceremoniously united until 1983 (in Denmark) or until 2004 in the United States, researchers have been looking at same sex relationships for decades. They point out that gays and lesbians argue over the same sort of things as heterosexual couples do. However, their conflict styles differ, their relationship success rates are higher and they have a myriad of issues specific to same sex couples. It’s no surprise, then, that a need would open up for counseling for civil marriages.
In some ways, a same sex marriage will suffer the same trials and tribulations as their heterosexual counterpart, as both will argue about finances, power struggles, household chores, child rearing, autonomy and intimacy. Also, a 2008 study by the American Psychological Association found that same sex couples are just as happy and committed in their romantic relationships as heterosexual couples.
However, the American Psychological Association study also found that couples in same sex marriages were happier in their relationships and better at resolving conflicts. A second study by the University of Washington, San Diego State University and the University of Vermont found that “Same-sex couples were more satisfied with their relationships, reported more positive feelings toward their partners, and reported less conflict than married heterosexual couples.” They also noted that gay and lesbian couples in civil marriages were more likely to stay together than those who were just in relationships.
No doubt, those in same sex marriages face a set of unique issues that heterosexual couples do not. For instance, gay unions are not normalized and therefore these couples may not feel the social pressure to stay together. These couples are already labeled “deviant” by the majority of society, whether they break up or remain together. They may also face public persecution or scrutiny from disapproving family members.